The Relationship Complex

So, you hang out a lot, share a few snogs and call and text eachother often (ending in 'x's.), but you're not going out. At least not officially...  

Let's face it, it's happened to you, to me and to the woman who you always see at the station.   The worst thing about this situation is that we often blame ourselves for absolutely no reason. It's not our fault that he refuses to commit and it's not like you can ask him where you stand without being scared to sound clingy.The thing is, boys are often oblivious to anything related to feelings and relationships, so when it comes to you feeling that you're in relationship limbo, he's probably too busy playing COD to even notice that something is up.

But the thing is, you can't ask him where you stand with him, because you have no idea where he stands with you. Sure, he may be a great laugh and potentially a good kisser, but can you see yourself in a relationship with him? Or maybe you're head over heels for him, but don't have a clue whether he feels the same way. As confused as you may be, chances are, he is just as confused as you are, but he doesn't know how to handle the situation either- which is a problem, because if neither of you are willing to ask the "what are we doing?" question, then you'll just be going around in circles.

So what do you do? Do you take the plunge and ask, or sit around and wait for him to make it obvious?
Most boys will tell you that boys are different to girls because they're more blunt and 'straight to the point' about things. Except... they're not. They're just as scared of being rejected as we are, because even though they might not show it sometimes, they have feelings too. To be honest, he's probably more scared of asking 'that' question than you are, because he's got his entire 'macho' rep at risk and is too scared to bruise his ego to do so. And girls? Well, we can't ask the question, because it's not what 'girls do'. I'm not one to go off on a feminist-blame society-bloody patriarchy-rant, however, we'd all be lying to ourselves if we said that certain gender stereotypes like 'girls can't ask boys out' or 'girls can't ask certain things without sounding clingy' don't exist. They do and they're ridiculous. It shouldn't be seen as clingy or silly for a girl to ask a boy where she stands, to be honest, it should be seen as brave and sound alarm bells in a boys head saying "Ask her out, cos she's ready to move on!". 

Sitting around and waiting for someone else to ask a question which you also have in mind will make no-one any wiser. So forget being scared, forget your ego and forget that for one second you will be open to rejection! Just go for it!

Seriously, what's the worst that could happen?