It's REALLY not that hard!

I'm starting a new school come September and it was very much safe to say that apart from the hardship of A Levels, one of my biggest fears was being an outcast new girl with no friends at all. After attending the induction day, this fear melted after being accepted into a close friendship group that had already been established by the girls who had been attending the school for five years.

To be honest, I don't know why I was so scared of not making friends and why we all have this fear every time we go somewhere new. Nursery, primary school, secondary, uni and work. Before we start all of them, we all have a huge anxiety caused by our fear of being lonely and I honestly can't understand why. Experience has shown most of us that we will make at least one friend naturally. It just happens. I haven't asked anyone to 'be my friend' since I was in year 2. If I really think about it, most of the friendships i've now formed were formed by sheer coincidence or by spending large amounts of time around each other that being friends just seemed to be the normal thing to do. I'll never forget that one of my closest friendships was formed at an MUN Conference by me asking this person if there was something on my face due to the fact that he was staring at me and cracking up. When he explained why, we got to talking about other things and realised that we were quite alike. Bish Bash Bosh...friendship formed at a place where I least expected it and in a quite awkward situation. It just goes to show that it's not hard. Another friendship I have was formed in year 7 when I started singing 'Gold' by Spandau Ballet and the girl sitting next to me immediately joined in. This girl went on to become my partner in crime when it came to causing any mischief or discussing any current issue which plagued our minds. That same girl has made a resolution to make no friends at her new school. We both know that she won't be able to do it. She's a naturally sociable person who is likely to form a friendship under a similarly random situation.

Really and truly, the friendships which we form are signs of the huge prisoners of circumstance which we are. If you think about it, if we were anywhere else, at any other time, we would not call the same people friends and that's if we're even lucky enough to know them!