C'est La Vie

"I wish I hadn't done that..."

Let's face it, we've all said that at some point in our lives. Regardless of the reason, cause and event, we've all done things that we regret doing.

The thing is, what's done is done and unless we get so worked up about it that we decide to investigate Einstein's theories and build a time machine, we can't undo what we did. Instead, we can look back on it, ask ourselves, "WTF was I thinking?!"and apologise for any collateral damage.

What's more, we gain absolutely nothing by sitting around with our head in our hands and beating ourselves up about it. Now, obviously some things are going to be harder to move on from than others, however try and remember why you did why you did. Let's not lie... it seemed like a good idea at the time and when something seems like it will be fun, we don't think about consequences until it's happening or 5 seconds later, but it is only when we have that wonderful thing called hindsight that we are able to shake our heads and call ourselves silly.
Now i'm not saying that a few laughs and a short good time is worth a long regret period, but it isn't so bad to comfort yourself with the idea that it made you smile, even for a fraction of a second and that is one thing that you should never regret- being happy.

Now if something has been done to you...

Well, I've never been one to hold a grudge, not just because I lack the will, but also because I don't understand the point of being angry over something I can do nothing about. Sure I'll get a bit frustrated, hey- I'm only human, nonetheless I always feel that by accepting that what's done is done, I gain closure for myself and feel as if I've grown a fair bit as a person for doing so.

Now, I totally understand that in some situations it can be pretty hard to forgive and forget, but ask yourself, 'what am I gaining from being angry?'
The answer is nothing. Chances are, that whilst you're consumed with anger and bitterness, the person who caused it is happily floating around and living their life as if nothing has happened and to be honest, that's not fair on you.
At the end of the day, I say sod it!
Don't focus your time and energy on someone who did you wrong and instead embrace all the people that haven't. Life goes on and it's too short to consumed by petty situations which will be irrelevant to your life in a few months time and as hard as it may be to admit...
Hannah Montana got it pretty spot on when she sang:

"Everybody makes mistakes, everybody has those days..."